If you’ve ever had a problem releasing something unhealthy, this message is for you. It’s especially for you if the pain of holding on is real— but the fear of letting go feels WORSE. Let me tell you about Donna (name changed for privacy). She thought she was finally...
Let’s talk about a painful truth most people miss: The traits we blame on others— their avoidance, their coldness, their walls— are often reflections of the parts of us we’ve been unwilling to face. (This is called “shadow projection”) Here’s what I mean: If you...
Let me tell you about Sarah. Sarah reached out to me after yet another relationship ended with the same words: “I can’t do this anymore.” But she wasn’t talking about the breakup. She was talking about the exhaustion. The isolation. The confusion. Sarah had...
It’s sad. Truly sad. Most people wouldn’t recognize a secure relationshipif it showed up with a neon sign saying, “No Drama Here.” Why? Because when all you’ve known is trauma bonds,longing, and anxiety, push and pull,you start mistaking chaos for connection,and...
Vulnerability and intimacy. These are the two things most of us crave in relationships,yet they feel as elusive as trying to catch smoke with your hands. Why? Because of one sneaky little feeling that hijacks our connectionsand blocks our ability to show up...
If you’re paying attention, relationship breakdowns will follow a specific pattern. The same conflict. The same arguments. The same heartbreak. Whether it’s your marriage, your dating life, or even the way you show up for your friends, these breakdowns carry a...
Breaking up is hard. But let’s face it—healing from a breakup when you’re stuck in self-blamefeels like training for a marathonwhen you’ve spent the last decade binge-watching Netflix. It’s brutal.It’s exhausting. And it’s mostly because you’re not just mourning the...
Let me just say it. If you are singleand your love life feels like one endless loop of unfulfilling dates,people who don’t “choose” you,or needy types who cling like Velcro… it’s not bad luck. It’s you. I know that hurts to hear,but if I’m not honest, who will be?...
A woman with adult children who aren’t speaking to her who’s stuck in a trauma bonded relationship she’s unfulfilled in, but can’t seem to let go of, just cancelled her Blind Spot session with me citing “Exhaustion and Avoidance”. It’s both heartbreaking and telling...
