As a guide who’s helped hundreds of couples heal the anxious-avoidant dance,there’s a painful pattern I see come up again and again. It shows up when a mom,exhausted and stretched thin,says “no” to intimacy because she’s just too tired. It’s understandable.Between...
There’s a hidden cost to seeking approval. It seems innocent at first. You want to make sure you’re making the right decision, that no one is upset, and that the people closest to yousupport your choices. But notice what happens when that approval doesn’t come. If...
I used to be so sure I knew why relationships crumble. Communication issues.mismatch of values.The wrong partner.A lack of magnetism. That’s what I told myself as I jumped from relationship to relationship, wondering why I kept ending up in the same cycles of...
Everyone talks about finding the right person,But what if the real story isn't about who we're choosing—it's about why we keep choosing them?See if this resonates: You start out feeling alive, magnetic, and in sync—only for things to spiral into power struggles,...
It’s not easy to admit this,but there was a time in my life when I was stuck in a never-ending nightmare. My previous relationship was a rollercoaster of intensity.The highs of passion and the lows of volatility were way too close to each other.We loved hard, and we...
What if everything we do to fix relationships doesn't work…because we're solving the wrong problem? Think about it: The books. The workshops. The couples therapy. The communication techniques. They all promise answers. But something's still missing. Despite the...
Every broken heart tells two stories. The one we see on the surface– the arguments, the distance, the painful endings. But there’s a deeper story underneath… the one our pain is desperately trying to tell us. And something amazing happens when we listen... First, see...
The most dangerous lie in relationships:That we're fighting about what we're fighting about. Simply put: it’s never about what it’s about. The disagreement, the argument,the snapping and defensiveness…It’s just the tip of the iceberg. What’s really happening is...
The same relationship story plays out millions of times every day. Two people meet. The connection feels magical. Then slowly, old patterns start creeping in… Conflict.Disconnection.Disappointment. Time after time, until doubt takes root. Is it them?Is it because we...
