Overthinking is a hell of a drug. I just spoke to an intelligent guy, who’s actually good looking… but he’s stuck in the love department. I see this all the time— attractive people who simply haven’t been able to connect with love. I remember after my last breakup,...
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Dr. Nima
Loop of Doom
We get into relationships because we want to connect. Life is about love after all. But after the initial honeymoon phase, sh*t begins to get real. Imagine being caught in a pattern where no matter how hard you try to connect, you end up feeling more disconnected....
Emotional Literacy
Imagine this: You’re in a relationship that feels more like a minefield than a safe space. • You wake up wondering, “What mood will they be in today?” • A single word, a glance, or even silence sends your nervous system spiraling. • You’re constantly tiptoeing...
Blame
Betty was stuck in a codependent marriage. She didn’t know it at the time—she didn’t even have the language to define what it was. To her, it just felt like resentment. She was over-giving,constantly abandoning her own needs for his. She lived in a push-pull...
Fear of Abandonment Resolved
Curtis is a good-looking dude. When I see his Instagram videos—shirt off, abs on display— I admit I get a pang of jealousy. My dad bod under this shirt doesn’t compare. But looks only get you so far. Despite having no problem attracting women, Curtis faced one...
How Enmeshment Destroys Relationships
Losing yourself in a relationship doesn’t feel good. This is why our avoidant parts show up: To protect ourselves from losing ourselves. I was there-- wanting connection, but not knowing how to connect without losing myself— and being overwhelmed by my partners...
How To Get Your Man To Finally Step Up And Do The Work
Nobody likes facing their shadows. These darker parts of ourselves are buried in a ton of shame. Even though we get into relationships to connect, love, and build a home that feels safe and secure, without the right healing work, and lack of skills developed,...
Setbacks in Healing Journey
Alicia, in tears, was wrestling with feelings of failure over her healing journey. The setbacks felt overwhelming, like all her progress had crumbled in an instant. She was drowning in self-judgment, unable to shake the guilt of her anxious attachment resurfacing. ...
Attracting Weak Men
This is a note for women who are frustrated with the men they are with (or seem to attract— wondering if all men are “weak”.) Avoidant, weak men. Never in a million years would I have imagined writing an email like this. I’m a retired Chiropractor by training,...