Denise had been wearing a mask for as long as she could remember.“I never feel seen,” she told me. “And then when someone does call me out on that mask, it’s… shattering. On one hand, I think, Why can’t you see me? And on the other, it’s like, "I don’t want to...
When you’re in dorsal vagal shutdown,your thoughts turn dark. “What’s the point?” “I’ll never get it right.” “Nobody wants me anyway.” “I’ll reject myself before they can do it.” It’s a quiet war that nobody sees. You isolate not because you want to—but because it...
December 2018.I was 43 years old and miserable,sitting alone in a rented room with my dog Lucy. My condo?On Airbnb to pay the bills. My career?On hold. My life?A mess. I had achieved success in many areas of life—but not the one that mattered most: Love. I was stuck...
The following has become a sad reality for many.See if you can relate. You’ve found yourself in a relationship that’s become a battlefield of unmet needs,silent frustrations, and emotional distance. You love each other deeply—at least, that’s what you tell yourself as...
When I first started learning about polarity in relationships, it sounded like the magic bullet. Masculine. Feminine.Polarity equals attraction, right? Except, what if your relationship feels more like “push-pull” chaos than magnetic connection? What if you find...
Overthinking is a hell of a drug. I just spoke to an intelligent guy, who’s actually good looking… but he’s stuck in the love department. I see this all the time— attractive people who simply haven’t been able to connect with love. I remember after my last breakup,...
We get into relationships because we want to connect. Life is about love after all. But after the initial honeymoon phase, sh*t begins to get real. Imagine being caught in a pattern where no matter how hard you try to connect, you end up feeling more disconnected....
Imagine this: You’re in a relationship that feels more like a minefield than a safe space. • You wake up wondering, “What mood will they be in today?” • A single word, a glance, or even silence sends your nervous system spiraling. • You’re constantly tiptoeing...
Betty was stuck in a codependent marriage. She didn’t know it at the time—she didn’t even have the language to define what it was. To her, it just felt like resentment. She was over-giving,constantly abandoning her own needs for his. She lived in a push-pull...
