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Dr. Nima

Individuation: The Secret Intention Behind Healing

It was a painful realization for me. I couldn’t stand being in between my parents and my first wife. I hated feeling like I was stuck in the middle.My wife at the time felt like I didn’t have her back. My parents felt frustrated about certain traits about her,and...

Bossbabe Conundrum

Just had an interesting back and forth with a woman who was keen on working with me.   Here’s her story: My story dates back to my early childhood years where I grew up in a dysfunctional emotionally and physically abusive household. Typical Mediterranean strict...

How not Learning Self Regulation Destroys Relationship

Just had this question: “I have these mood swings that when I am feeling down,I feel I need to shut down and stay away from humans until I can regulate. It could take me a good couple of hours to days to feel like myself again. My ex-husband complained about this and...

Embodied Feminine Radiance

The moment I met her, I could feel there was something different about her. It was in her smile. That smile knocked me right off my feet. It was as though you could FEEL her soul in her smile. I didn't understand what it was at the time-- I didn't have words for it. I...

If You Want To Heal Trauma— Focus Here…

Think about your relationship to physical and emotional pain. Do you keep trying to avoid it— only to find yourself in it constantly?   How has your relationship to pain impacted your life?   Being a bit of a freak— I find myself thinking about this stuff.   I’ve...

Understanding Your Attachment Style

Tell me if you can relate to this. I was 43 years old when I realized I had it all wrong. Growing up with the values instilled in me,I thought I had to prove my worth in the world with success. In 2010 when I climbed that mountain and reached what I would have...

Perfectionism Is a Trauma Response

What is it that you’re not stepping into action for? Where are you dragging your feet?   What is sitting there unwritten, unresolved, un-expressed within you?   Chances are, you’re stopped by “perfection anxiety”— better known as PERFECTIONISM.   If you’ve ever...

Questions To Ponder On The Path To Healing

We all are wanting to create homes where it feels like a sanctuary to be there. Where relationships feel nourishing.    It wasn’t until my last one ended, and I was all alone at the age of 43, living with my dog, looking in the mirror…   I felt called to finally face...