“Dr. Nima, we walk on eggshells with each other.I am so sensitive to the slightest upset that when he is in a bad mood, I don’t know how to fix it.I constantly feel like a failure in this relationship. Can you help?” I just received this email from a subscriber, and...
When you’re reading about relationshipsand secure attachments, avoidants get thrown under the bus. As I unpacked my last relationship which was definitely a Trauma Bond,I had to take ownership of my avoidance behaviors and find the root cause. I didn’t want to go...
"Come close to me." "Get away from me." "I need you." "I need you to leave me alone." "I can’t live without you." "I can’t live like this anymore". These were soundbites from my last relationship. I didn’t know the term “Trauma Bond” but after being...
It was 2019 when I realized something had to change. I’d nailed success in almost every area of my life—except one: intimate relationships. Every relationship ended up in a mess,and I couldn’t figure out why my last one was such a disaster. Then I discovered the...
Sally’s words hit me like a ton of bricks: ‘I wasn’t expecting that. This is going to take me a while to process.’ It’s no surprise—she had just completed her Overview Experience (OE) a few weeks ago, and let me tell you, this isn’t your average Zoom call. OE isn’t...
If you’ve ever been stuck in the “loop of doom” in a relationship dynamic, you’ll understand this exhausting dance: After the honeymoon phase is finished, which lasts between up to 6 months to 18 months… you graduate to the next phase of the relationship, which is...
The anxious-avoidant cycle can get exhausting.When two parties aren’t trigger-proof, things can get heated. In secure relationships, boundary violations are handledelegantly. Not so elegant when the "two anxieties” of unconscious polarityare at play. Let me explain....
Inevitably on the path towards healing our relationship dynamics, there comes a time when we are called to wake up, put down the magnifying glass, and pick up a mirror instead. Sadly, many who are on the road to recovery haven’t even gotten there yet. They’re the...
