How to Understand the Avoidant

When you’re reading about relationships
and secure attachments, avoidants get thrown under the bus.

As I unpacked my last relationship which was definitely a Trauma Bond,
I had to take ownership of my avoidance behaviors and find the root cause.

I didn’t want to go through the painful push-pull dynamic again.

I wanted to trust myself.

I wanted to trust love.

Even though I was successful at work,
I desperately craved the feeling of love that felt secure.

I didn’t want to die NOT having experienced safe and secure love.

Now, in teaching the people in my cyclebreakers community how to go
from insecure to secure attachments by learning high level skills in relating,
I noticed how much resentment those with anxious attachment carry
towards their avoidant partners.

So I decided to hit the record button to help those with anxious attachment
better understand their avoidant partners.

In this episode I reveal the MAIN THING that avoidants are trying to avoid.

When you understand this— you feel less victimized and resentful.
Your frustration turns to compassion— and from there,
you have much better options than to push them away with more neediness.

This episode is to help those who identify as avoidants
(or those who partner with avoidants) to upgrade your understanding
of what’s really going on— so that you can make the shift towards
emotional healing and creating the most important experience as a human being:

Love that feels fulfilling and connected.

A home that feels like a sanctuary.

Safety in your Nervous System.

This is for you if you want to shift your avoidance behaviors,
or to make it safer for your avoidant partner to turn TOWARDS you
when they are taking space.

Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima