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Dr. Nima

If You’re Single: Let’s Be Honest About Your Dating Struggles

Let me just say it. If you are singleand your love life feels like one endless loop of unfulfilling dates,people who don’t “choose” you,or needy types who cling like Velcro… it’s not bad luck. It’s you. I know that hurts to hear,but if I’m not honest, who will be?...

Avoidance (Somatic Exercise)

A woman with adult children who aren’t speaking to her who’s stuck in a trauma bonded relationship she’s unfulfilled in, but can’t seem to let go of, just cancelled her Blind Spot session with me citing “Exhaustion and Avoidance”. It’s both heartbreaking and telling...

What do You Actually Want?

(I had to hit rock bottom to figure it out.) This pic right here —It’s how I’m ringing in 2025—With my radiant wife, Diana,Our superhero son, Dominic,And a heart full of gratitude for what once felt impossible. And I’m going to be honest with you.This wasn’t always...

When The Honeymoon Phase Ends

There’s that blissful phase of your relationship where everything feels effortless.   Every glance feels electric, every touch meaningful, and every conversation flows. It’s called the "honeymoon phase." But if you’re like most people, you didn’t even notice when it...

Why the Wheels Fall Off: Breaking Free from Midlife Cycles

At 43, I thought successwas supposed to make it easier. Get the career.Build the wealth.Earn the respect. And the rest would just… fall into place. At least, that’s what I was sold. But if you’re anything like I was,you’ve built a life you were told would make you...

Crushing Loneliness of Success

Imagine:You're excelling in your professional sphere.  Industry accolades. But tonight, like every night,  you sit alone in your immaculate kitchen.    Takeout for one.    Again. The silence is deafening. Your phone buzzes.    Is it them?    Your heart leaps,  then...

Is This You? Overcoming Fear and Self-Abandonment

Last week, I had a conversation with Sue.She was 61 years old,married for 37 years,and stuck in a relationshipthat felt more like a prison than a partnership. Her words stayed with me:“I’ve never lived by myself.I went straight from my parents’ house to my husband’s.I...

Why Can’t You See Me?

Denise had been wearing a mask for as long as she could remember.“I never feel seen,” she told me.  “And then when someone does call me out on that mask,  it’s… shattering.  On one hand, I think,  Why can’t you see me?  And on the other, it’s like,  "I don’t want to...

Depression or Protection? Understand the Difference

When you’re in dorsal vagal shutdown,your thoughts turn dark. “What’s the point?” “I’ll never get it right.” “Nobody wants me anyway.” “I’ll reject myself before they can do it.” It’s a quiet war that nobody sees. You isolate not because you want to—but because it...