This is a very common experience for many folks.  There’s a deep experience of being unsettled in life and relationships, noticing things don’t align, and having an “off” feeling.

But, their childhood was very good. Their parents were kind, loving people, active members of a Church or Faith group…

The truth is, trauma is far more insidious and hidden than this. Once you understand the language of the nervous system, you see how the experience of feeling like you had to take care of the emotions of a parent, having a parent struggle with an addiction, divorce, or simply getting everything you ever wanted without limit gets experienced as trauma. It can create a way of being where we have to take on roles in relationships that mimic what we experienced in our family system.

We can’t see it as traumatic while WITHIN the system itself.  Many of these practices like the “let the baby cry it out” method have been adopted as Sacred Cows of raising children.

You’ll be surprised at what you discover, and it doesn’t mean your parents were horrible people because of it.

It means that the world has been unconscious of the impact on a child’s nervous system.

Trauma is another word for “injury”.  These experiences can create wounds that last a lifetime, impacting the way we see, feel, and react in the world today.  

To expand our capacity and resilience for stress and conflict (which is what this training is all about), it means that the students must be wiling to face and feel uncomfortable situations from their past, and be willing to examine them.

The exercises, practices and discussions will, without a doubt, bring up experiences where you felt hurt, abandoned, ashamed, and alone.

Feelings of anger, fear, and loneliness will come up to be courageously learned how to navigate so that we can master the art of self-soothing and autonomic nervous system regulation.  

We understand not everyone is at the stage where they feel ready to do this, so we ask that you be responsible for yourself, and be willing to share whatever comes up for you and if you require some support.  

Once this practice is mastered, you are able to walk through life and relationships with greater ease, grace, and flow, leading courageously with vulnerability and authenticity. 

This is the game we are playing together. 

The goal is NOT going to be to put an end to your triggers.  TriggerProof does NOT mean trigger LESS. 

It means you’ll be expanding your capacity to FEEL them so you’ll be able to pause and RESPOND from a place of emotional maturity as you deepen your practice. 

One of the main hurdles to overcome in this work is the self-judgment you will feel whenever your nervous system gets activated.

This is part of one of the first modules: you’ll make whatever your experience WRONG.  Even “experts” get this one wrong. 

You’re learning how to address what the trigger is about. 

Mastering this will help you take conflicts you’re going through (when both parties are at the effect of an emotional flashback) and be able to recover in a fraction of the time, and respond COMPLETELY differently than they would have only weeks prior. 

It’s magic. 

Yes.  He’s slightly sadistic that way. 

But on a more serious note, to expand your ability to handle uncomfortable situations, you’ll be taken through exercises and asked questions. Then you can curiously observe what happens in your body, and learn to regulate it.  In other words, the only way I’m able to become TriggerProof is to be willing to be activated.  

Because Dr. Nima is on a path to being his authentic self, that involves getting uncomfortable and sharing what he perceives is true.

Although he’s getting better at refining his delivery so it lands on a larger audience, there is without a doubt going to be times in the process that you will feel triggered.  It’s not so much done “on purpose” as it is a part of the nature of exploring embodiment.  

It’s going to happen no matter what. 

So, we might as well have fun in the process. 

Plus, yes, he’s a bit sadistic.  Sadly.

This is a great question.  Many folks reach out feeling stuck in their relationship dynamics hoping their partner will deal with their own issues. They feel stunted towards their own healing path, not wanting to go on the path unless the other person is doing the work. 

To help answer this question, we have to ask why we’re doing our healing work in the first place.  Of course, we want to have relationships that work.

How can a relationship work if there’s only ONE person committed to doing their healing work? How can it work unless both parties are committed to the process?

This level of healing work is much like exercise for getting healthy, lean, and fit.  If both of you are overweight and sluggish and you can acknowledge you both need to get in shape, how many of you does it require to do the work?  Ideally, they will join you, but is it a requirement as long as the main outcome you’re moving towards is to feel more comfortable and fulfilled in your own skin?

Healing our nervous system and becoming more emotionally regulated has a net positive effect on the right relationship.  A rising tide lifts all boats.  

The relationship will NATURALLY EVOLVE as you gain confidence, vulnerability, and the power to be your authentic self. 

Healing our attachment wounds and learning how to resource our own emotions helps us gain the clarity and courage to have a greater impact and influence on the relationship itself. 

Many of our clients notice a deeper connection with their loved ones, even if their loved ones aren’t doing the work.  Some even inspire their partners (and ex’s) to take on their healing work as well.

The point is, make sure you’re doing it for the most important relationship:  the one with YOURSELF. 

Many folks resist enrolling because they feel too shy in front of others, they freeze, or have had very bad experiences in the past with others (childhood bullying, etc).

They’re then surprised to see how safe, open and caring the group is.

The truth is, EVERYONE is shy, and a bit unsure of themselves at first. This is normal.

Although you get the most out of your time when you engage and share, leaning into the discomfort of being seen….

Nobody will force you to say anything.

You might even surprise yourself — you might have a lot more to contribute than you think you do.

Because we’re exploring concepts like intimacy and vulnerability, you’ll have plenty of opportunity to have smaller break-out rooms where you’ll hear the stories of many people who are exactly in the same boat as you are, and these connections will be something you will appreciate the most.

Yes. Choose whatever option works best for you.