Blog Articles by Dr. Nima

Why You Don’t Know What You Want

"It isn't normal to know what we want.It is a rare and difficult psychological achievement.” ― Abraham Maslow   I remember it feeling like a panic in my system.   I was in a crossroads of my life, wondering what’s next, and when someone asked me what I wanted, my...

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I realized I Was The Problem

Have you heard the Taylor Swift song “Anti-Hero”?   I remember the first time hearing it and was blown away.   “I’ll stare directly in the sun but never in the mirror” was one of my favorite lines of all time in a song, because it captured what I see so often when...

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The Impact Of Your Inner Work On Your Children

Imagine it was 40 years ago. And your parents were about to make an important decision. They were sitting on an opportunity to help them heal a part of themselves. They were on the precipice of deciding if NOW is the time to resolve some of their childhood wounding....

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Too Late

“It’s too late for me” is something I’ve been hearing quite a bit in my worldof relationship / Trauma bonding recovery. It’s sad to hear— especially when there’s a more empowering perspective there. We all want secure relationships, and if you’re a parent, of coursewe...

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How Mom and Dad Impacted Your Relationships

If you are dealing with an insecure attachment,narcissistic/codependent relational dynamics,or anxious avoidant patterns….   YOU CAN BLAME YOUR PARENTS FOR THAT.   (I’m half kidding here, by the way).   Just here to let you know how common this is.   Sometimes I think...

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Shame Is The Main Hurdle In The Path Of Healing

In 2018, I remember hating what I saw when I looked in the mirror. Shame— that feeling of being “inherently bad inside” the feeling behind the reason people end their lives….   Is not something we are born with:   It’s something we are born INTO.   Like a fish being...

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When Siblings Don’t Get Along

If you have a sibling, think of what it was like when you were younger and got into a conflict with them.   How did your parents react to you?   Taking sides, frustration, shaming, invalidation... Often not helpful in repair and resolution.   I never really thought...

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How Co-Dependent Marriage Impacts Children

(4 min read)   In the book “Laws of Human Nature” by Robert Greene, he summarizes in a beautiful way the focus of my life’s work:   Think back to your younger self-- growing up as a child (if you can remember it):   In the first 3 or 4 years our brains are especially...

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