When we are going through a difficult time — It’s nice to feel seen and heard and understood by someone…Especially when as a child you didn’t receive that container of “attunement.” Often when we hit snags in relationships or something conflicting or confronting has...
If you’ve ever experienced one of the following: Infidelity.Domestic Abuse.Toxic Relationship breakdown.Divorce.Addiction.Mental health crisis.Co-dependency. Then you’re in good company these days.It’s literally impossible to hit your 40’s without suffering through...
As it turns out, I was completely wrong about what Trauma is. And not knowing the truth about it kept me stuck there, trying to think my way out of my relationship challenges. This one oversight keeps people from healing. In my 20 years of helping people heal, I’ve...
If you’ve ever watched a Superhero movie, you’ll notice a common theme in every single one: The Hero ends up becoming the perceived villain at some point. Somewhere down the line,they fail to meet the pedestal-like expectations placed upon them. You’ll notice the same...
Not understanding Trauma is hurting you. And if you’re a parent, chances are,without even being aware,the unconscious and subtle nature of how trauma passes like a virusis causing us to pass it down intergenerationally to our children. That’s why in every single one...
Common Question: “Dr. Nima, help. I know I’ve been triggered lately in a relationship. It keeps coming up, and it feels like we’re going nowhere. I know I want to change, but I don’t know where to begin. Where do I begin to heal this?” If you’ve ever been in that...
Losing touch with your own realityand getting emotionally enmeshed with anotheris the main dilemma in co-dependent relationships. It’s almost an “out of body” experience. Without awareness we give up our “agency,”our choice,our power,our well being and we unknowingly...
Inevitably on the path towards healing our relationship dynamics, there comes a time when we are called to wake up, put down the magnifying glass, and pick up a mirror instead. Sadly, many who are on the road to recovery haven’t even gotten there yet. They’re the ones...
I know this message might sound a little morbid, but this is the kind of stuff I really enjoy thinking of. Most of us are walking on this planet quite unconsciously. Waking up, stuck in our heads over what isn’t working, how we aren’t getting what we want, how shitty...
