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Dr. Nima

Why Affairs are so Intoxicating (and P*rn too)

You find a partner. You fall in love. You have good enough s€x to want to keep them around. (not necessarily in that order?) And then it happens.An affair. Or some version of infidelity. I realize that reading this might feel uncomfortable for you.But if we truly...

My ex husband was my first s€xual partner

(4 minute read) QUESTION IN MY DM’S: I'm a 38 year old woman, and I got divorced last year after being separated for several years.My ex-husband was my first s€xual partner.The s€x was better prior to getting married,but after our first year of marriage it was...

COVERT NARCISSISM — How to spot the “Toxic Feminine”

I thought for sure I would be called out or cancelled for this. BUT THE EXACT OPPOSITE HAPPENED. In this Era where #metoo highlighted the classic traits of “Toxic Masculinity”: Namely:  Controlling, Agressive, Predatory behavior that comes from theunhealed wounds and...

3 Shifts From Anxious to Secure

If you identify with Anxious Attachment, then you're not alone. Constantly second guessing yourself, seeking validation, asking friends "what does he/she mean by that?" in this twisted dance of anxiety whether they like you or not or are going to leave.   It sucks.  ...

Sex and money shadows: It’s not your fault

If you're curious about what constitutes your "Sexual shadows", see if any of these questions resonate with you:   Will I ever feel safe to commit to ONE person? How much focus should there be on sex in a relationship? Am I too much? I can't keep up with my partners...

How to know when you’re playing the victim

A community member just asked:   "Would appreciate some extra insight on how to know when you're playing the victim vs. just needing to express your feelings on how you've been affected by someone else's actions vs. needing/desiring validation vs. not making others...

2 Priceless skills you wish you learned in school but never did

On this transmission I cover the 2 skills I never learned in any personal development course that -- no word of a lie-- has cost me over a million dollars in divorce, legal fees, lost business, not to mention the mental anguish and sleepless nights, and worrying about...

How I found myself stuck within a trauma bond

I was too embarrassed to look and notice that I was stuck in a Relationship I didn’t know how to free myself from, which took me through a series of events that led to my arrest. I share the journey here. P.S When you're ready, here's what we got:Breathwork &...

Am I the “Toxic” one?

Inevitably on the path towards healing our relationship dynamics, there comes a time when we are called to wake up, put down the magnifying glass, and pick up a mirror instead.   Sadly, many who are on the road to recovery haven’t even gotten there yet. They’re the...