Working in the field of healing Trauma Bonds,having a pretty strong (and controversial) opinion about what it takes to HEALwhen many therapies and modalities simply help people just COPE… The topic of taking ownership and responsibility for how we show up in...
DEAR PEOPLE PLEASER IN RECOVERY, it’s not your fault that you are wearing a mask.Growing up, if you’ve ever been punished or scolded for your authentic self expression,it makes perfect sense why you might want to hide certain aspects of yourself. The problem is, this...
If you’re ever been stuck in a loop, repeating the same pattern in your relationship dynamic, pay close attention: Freud called it the “Repetition Compulsion,” where even though you KNOW it’s not wise, or fulfilling, or even healthy, but unconscious forces are...
If you’ve ever found yourself lost in a maze, looking for outside approval, you’re in good company. I noticed a common thread in everyone’s story who has ever reached out looking for help with their challenging relationship patterns. Listening to their stories of...
WILL THIS WORK FOR ME I wish I could have a nickel for everyone who has reached out wondering if our events and programs will “work” for them. Some of them request a guarantee from me that it will, and don’t feel safe in proceeding unless there is one. It’s almost as...
What if your partner doesn’t want to “do the work”? I get this question all the time.This video is an excerpt from our recent “Breathwork and Badassery” Experience. I get this question almost every single time. It’s almost as though we aren’t going to take part in our...
When we are going through a difficult time — It’s nice to feel seen and heard and understood by someone…Especially when as a child you didn’t receive that container of “attunement.” Often when we hit snags in relationships or something conflicting or confronting has...
If you’ve ever experienced one of the following: Infidelity.Domestic Abuse.Toxic Relationship breakdown.Divorce.Addiction.Mental health crisis.Co-dependency. Then you’re in good company these days.It’s literally impossible to hit your 40’s without suffering through...
As it turns out, I was completely wrong about what Trauma is. And not knowing the truth about it kept me stuck there, trying to think my way out of my relationship challenges. This one oversight keeps people from healing. In my 20 years of helping people heal, I’ve...
