Blog Articles by Dr. Nima

Did you ever wonder why the push-pull dynamic keeps coming upin insecure relationship dynamics? It all makes perfect sense when you study the mechanism. Insecure (and exhausting) push-pull dynamics happen becausewe haven’t yet learned how to navigate the two primary...

Unless you had unicorn parents, chances are that you follow a combination of two primary insecure attachment styles:   Anxious (Ambivalent)— Think of a wave who constantly needs connection. Avoidant (Dismissive)— Think of an “island” who needs space.   or a...

"It isn't normal to know what we want.It is a rare and difficult psychological achievement.” ― Abraham Maslow   I remember it feeling like a panic in my system.   I was in a crossroads of my life, wondering what’s next, and when someone asked me what I wanted, my...

Have you heard the Taylor Swift song “Anti-Hero”?   I remember the first time hearing it and was blown away.   “I’ll stare directly in the sun but never in the mirror” was one of my favorite lines of all time in a song, because it captured what I see so often when...

Imagine it was 40 years ago. And your parents were about to make an important decision. They were sitting on an opportunity to help them heal a part of themselves. They were on the precipice of deciding if NOW is the time to resolve some of their childhood wounding....

“It’s too late for me” is something I’ve been hearing quite a bit in my worldof relationship / Trauma bonding recovery. It’s sad to hear— especially when there’s a more empowering perspective there. We all want secure relationships, and if you’re a parent, of coursewe...

If you are dealing with an insecure attachment,narcissistic/codependent relational dynamics,or anxious avoidant patterns….   YOU CAN BLAME YOUR PARENTS FOR THAT.   (I’m half kidding here, by the way).   Just here to let you know how common this is.   Sometimes I think...

In 2018, I remember hating what I saw when I looked in the mirror. Shame— that feeling of being “inherently bad inside” the feeling behind the reason people end their lives….   Is not something we are born with:   It’s something we are born INTO.   Like a fish being...

(3 minute read) As I'm now three years deep in the parenting game, I am noticing how parenting styles have shifted through the generations. When your parents were raised, the cultural conditioning was“spare the rod, spoil the child,”with parents taking on more of an...