Blog Articles by Dr. Nima

How to Understand the Avoidant

When you’re reading about relationshipsand secure attachments, avoidants get thrown under the bus. As I unpacked my last relationship which was definitely a Trauma Bond,I had to take ownership of my avoidance behaviors and find the root cause. I didn’t want to go...

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Signs of a Trauma Bonded Relationship

"Come close to me."   "Get away from me."   "I need you."   "I need you to leave me alone."   "I can’t live without you."   "I can’t live like this anymore".   These were soundbites from my last relationship.   I didn’t know the term “Trauma Bond” but after being...

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Hidden Forces

It was 2019 when I realized something had to change. I’d nailed success in almost every area of my life—except one: intimate relationships. Every relationship ended up in a mess,and I couldn’t figure out why my last one was such a disaster. Then I discovered the...

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The Choice We Don’t Consciously Choose

Sally’s words hit me like a ton of bricks: ‘I wasn’t expecting that. This is going to take me a while to process.’   It’s no surprise—she had just completed her Overview Experience (OE) a few weeks ago, and let me tell you, this isn’t your average Zoom call. OE isn’t...

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Why You Can’t Shortcut The Healing Process

If you’ve ever been stuck in the “loop of doom” in a relationship dynamic, you’ll understand this exhausting dance:   After the honeymoon phase is finished,  which lasts between up to 6 months to 18 months… you graduate to the next phase of the relationship,  which is...

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How to Navigate the Anxious Avoidant Cycle

The anxious-avoidant cycle can get exhausting.When two parties aren’t trigger-proof, things can get heated. In secure relationships, boundary violations are handledelegantly. Not so elegant when the "two anxieties” of unconscious polarityare at play. Let me explain....

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A New Lens For Forgiveness

(Name changed to respect privacy and anonymity) (4 minute read).   Amy was tired of feeling like a victim. Divorced with children,  running a business,  she was still walking around with a great deal of resentment.    She had done YEARS of therapy,  plant medicines,...

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Why She Wants to Leave You (Even if You’re Rich)

Women initiate 70% of divorces. After speaking to these women, I discovered 3 reasons why. She’s fed up.She’s tired.She’s feeling alone (even if you’ve been married for decades). I’ve even spoken to women who confessed they were wanting to have an affair. If you’re a...

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Our Resistance To Healing

It’s time for some real talk. After countless calls with the people who have been consuming my content,  reaching out for help in their current situation, I want to share with you what I wish I could say to them— but usually don’t, because let’s face it, the truth can...

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