I admit I get a little worked up over this topic.
I can’t help it.
20 years as a Chiropractor, and now as a Facilitator
helping people through Trauma Bonds and attachment wounds,
divorce, breakup etc….
The medical system is broken when dealing with emotional issues.
I’m working with two clients right now who are going through another separation.
They’ve both been on medications since their previous relationship breakdowns.
During those low moments, they relied on the medical system to help them
with the sadness and despair that results whenever we have a ruptured attachment.
“You’re going to need these to help take the edge off.”
The problem?
They work. They take the edge off.
But here they are now, 4-6 years later and now we are actually working through
the emotions they weren’t able to process.
People are waking up to the fact that we can’t solve a feeling problem by numbing ourselves.
We can’t heal what we don’t feel.
And when we numb ourselves from feeling sadness and fear— two normal parts of human experience,
we numb ourselves from joy.
We numb ourselves from gratitude.
We numb ourselves out of connection.
We all want healthy secure relationships that are connected, magical and juicy.
That’s why our trainings and events are all about learning how to BE WITH our emotions,
instead of running from them.
When you do, you can master regulating your system.
You become safer with yourself.
You become more magnetic.
And best of all, you can teach the next generation that emotions aren’t to be avoided.
They’re to be processed.
If you have a dysfunctional relationship with your emotions,
If you are carrying resentment or grief and you’ve been covering it up or avoiding it,
and you realize it’s not going away,
and time hasn't gotten rid of it…
And the resentment, shame, guilt is now impacting your present relationship..
Just know that it’s not your fault.
You just never learned how to become Trigger Proof.
You never learned how to process your pain and turn it into your greatest asset.
You never learned how to take conflict and turn it into deeper intimacy.
You probably never even knew you could do that.