COVERT NARCISSISM — How to spot the “Toxic Feminine”

Written By Dr. Nima

On January 19, 2023

I thought for sure I would be called out or cancelled for this.

BUT THE EXACT OPPOSITE HAPPENED.

In this Era where #metoo highlighted the classic traits of “Toxic Masculinity”:

Namely:  Controlling, Agressive, Predatory behavior that comes from the
unhealed wounds and rampant Masculine shadows in society…

All of which are well documented and you’ll see a million articles and videos about…

I took a huge chance and shared a list of 20 of the most common ways the feminine (women)
unconsciously drop the ball in intimate partnerships.

It was a Transmission shot in the back seat of my car as we were waiting for our AirBnb to be cleaned in Tofino, BC.

The response to this day has been heart opening.

Women still message me saying how painful it was to hear, but it was the EXACT MEDICINE needed to wake
up and raise the standards.

What was most inspiring to me was how literally 100% of women really GOT how as a man, I was really looking out for them.

I thought for sure the third and 4th wave feminists would call me out for “mansplaining”.

But I got tearful messages of gratitude for the transmission instead.

It has been my most shared and tagged piece of content— despite being one of the shittiest in production quality.

Goes to show you— if the content is coming from the heart and it speaks to what people are struggling with,
even if it’s on a laptop in the back seat of your car— it can still spark a transformation.

When I ask the Cyclebreakers in our community who are now in healthy secure relationships, showing up
with mature feminine energy— what was their wake up call to prioritize doing the work…

Many said that this video was the match that lit the fire inside.

I hope it makes a difference for you.

Let me know what you think.

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Kaylynn
Kaylynn
1 year ago

Thank you Dr Nima. You asked us to tell you “how we feel?” after watching the video. I feel you’re right: it IS one of your best videos. The content is Spot On. This is incredibly helpful and you’ve done a great service, through your honest interpretation and mirroring back of “what” it feels like to be on the receiving end of this behavior, as a man. A lot of what I listened to reminded me of what I was like in my earliest relationships in my 20’s and 30’s, but more importantly, it spells out, in easy-to-understand terms, the… Read more »

Miranda
1 year ago

Great video. I did a lot of these in my last relationship. Didn’t realize I was doing it from a wounding.

Priscilla Zaragoza
Priscilla Zaragoza
1 year ago

I loved this! My therapist told me “I’m a snake eating my own tail” but he never went into details. I now understand somewhat, I still need work.

Brenda
Brenda
1 year ago

Thank you for your insight. I appreciate your way of expressing. what I need to hear.

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