Blog Articles by Dr. Nima

I just had a frustrated commenter (Carol) on my facebook page.   She said “I could care less about having a relationshit”.  It’s not worth the BS and the hoop jumping, and the fact that no one cares about boundaries. Single is peace.”   I just wanted to jump through...

We’ve had over 100,000 people do our attachment-style quiz that helps you determine your attachment style.   Guess what the most common attachment style has been??   Nope, not “avoidant”.   Those who identify as “avoidant” will often “avoid" the discomfort of looking...

If you’re in that place of recovery from what’s called “Attachment Rupture” in Somatic Experiencing and you’re feeling the panic, grief, and hopelessness of wondering if you should stay or go, just know that what you’re experiencing makes perfect sense and there’s...

Who do I have to be in order to get your approval? Who do I have to be in order to prevent you from getting upset? These are our unconscious drives that motivate “fawning." I did a little skit on how this trauma response shows up in the dating world. The response has...

If you have lived a lifefeeling like you needed to wear a maskand play a role of “Pleasing others”in order to get your needs met, just know that you’re not alone.   “Fawning” is a Trauma response that many I’ve spoken to didn’t even realize they were doing, because...

I hate this question so muchthat I decided to create content about itso that forever more, I can keep referring back to itwhen I’m asked the question: “I’ve tried so many things. How will I know if this will work for me?” First off, I want you to know how much I can...

Nobody’s talking about this.   It’s the least talked about Trauma response, yet it’s the most common.   You often hear and read content about Fight, Flight, and Freeze trauma responses.   These are adaptations we learn in childhood that keep us alive.   You’re able to...

read this only if you’re a parent there’s a way you can virtually GUARANTEE you’ll end up being a sh*tty parent.   And it won’t even be intentional. You’ll have all the right intentions for your parenting game. You’ll read the books and articles and watch the youtube...

In all the years helping folks healing from Trauma Bonds, I learned two very shocking facts:   1) We are facing an epidemic of people who have exes who they label as “narcissists”.   2) Almost every single person I’ve ever met with who labels their ex as a narcissist,...