The Inscure Person

Written By Dr. Nima

On November 15, 2023

“The insecure person is fearful and prone to jealousy, clinging, possessiveness, and attachment in relationships, an approach that always brings frustration. The purpose of these feelings is to bind and tightly possess the other, to achieve security by preventing loss and, at times, to punish the other for our own fear of loss. Again, these attitudes tend to bring into manifestation the very thing that we are holding in mind. The other person, now feeling pressured by our energy of dependency and possessiveness, has an inner impulse to run for freedom, to withdraw, to detach and do the very thing that we fear the most. These attitudes lead to constantly wanting to influence others. Because people intuitively pick up our wish to control them, their response is to resist. So the only way to bring about relinquishment of their resisting us is to let go of wanting to influence them in the first place. This means letting go of the inner fears as they come up.”

~David R. Hawkins

Nobody starts off wanting to be insecure, yet most of us didn’t get the appropriate attachment needs met in order to become the secure partners we want to be.

So we end up creating codependency and living in a state of primal panic in the world of relationships.

Clinginess, neediness, and not owning our self worth.Take a guess what kind of relationships we end up in.

Once you understand the root of these problems— unresolved attachment wounds and an inability to manage our Triggers as they pop up— secure relationships are the natural bi-product.

Learning to “let go” is easy to say— harder to embody.
But there IS a way.



P.S. If you’re ready to find out what the process of Being Trigger-Proof ACTUALLY looks like,
I open up 10 spaces every month at our Overview Experience virtual Deep-Dive.
I teach my Cyclebreakers Community the practice and somatic process
I came up with that helps you master the art of REPAIR:
Turning Triggers into deeper self love,
and Conflict into deeper intimacy.

When you get this right, your anxious and avoidant tendencies shift to secure,
Trauma Bonds melt into compassion and understanding,
And you raise your status of who you attract and are attracted TO.

If you want begin the inner work and start to become more magnetic,
grab a spot on our next upcoming event.

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