but the fear of letting go feels WORSE.
Let me tell you about Donna (name changed for privacy).
She thought she was finally free.
After years of untangling herself from a toxic marriage,
confident, independent, strong.
And then she met him.
It was magic.
Loved.
But just as quickly as the fairytale began,
it turned into a nightmare.
Suddenly, her safe, happy world unraveled.
leaving her with the one question that kept her up at night:
“What’s wrong with me?”
Donna was no stranger to heartbreak.
But this wasn’t like before.
This wasn’t just love lost.
It was more like an addiction to a shared fantasy
she never got to act out.
Here’s what no one tells you about relationships like Donna’s:
They aren’t built on love.
They’re built on fear.
The fear of being alone.
The fear of not being enough.
The fear that maybe, just maybe,
this is as good as it gets.
And here’s the cruel part--
That fear keeps you hooked
Logic is thrown out the window.
When you’re trapped in a trauma bond,
It doesn’t care if he’s emotionally unavailable.
It doesn’t care if his ex is still calling the shots.
It doesn’t even care if staying is breaking you.
Your body just wants what it thinks is “safe.”
But safe isn’t the same as healthy.
If you’re stuck like Donna,
I invite you to be honest with yourself.
- Do you tell yourself he’ll change—if only you’re patient enough?
- Do you replay every conversation, looking for where you went wrong?
- Do you dread letting go because the thought of starting over
feels like a death sentence?
This isn’t love.
It’s SURVIVAL.
And survival isn’t enough to build the life you deserve.
Donna’s heart told her he was “the one.”
But her body told a different story.
She couldn’t eat.
She couldn’t sleep.
Her job suffered.
Her friendships became strained.
And every day, she woke up with the same sinking feeling:
“I’m not okay.”
The thing about trauma bonds is they aren’t just painful—
they shrink you.
I lived in one for 4 years.
I know the feeling.
They make your world smaller.
They erode your confidence.
They strip away your sense of worth.
And the worst part is that
you start to believe you deserve it.
Donna thought letting go would destroy her.
But what destroyed her wasn’t letting go—
it was holding on to someone who didn’t have the capacity
to love her the way she deserved.
When Donna finally saw the truth
on our blind spot intuitive session,
that was the beginning of her shift.
She realized her pain wasn’t about him.
It was about her.
The little girl inside her who had been conditioned to think
that she wasn’t enough.
The part of her that confused abandonment with love.
The unhealed wounds that led her to mistake
the chaos of a trauma bond for “connection.”
Letting go wasn’t about losing him—
IT WAS ABOUT FINDING HERSELF.
Here’s the thing about people like Donna:
They don’t stay stuck forever.
They decide.
They decide to stop chasing love
and start building it from the inside out.
They decide to heal the wounds
that keep them hooked on unavailable partners.
They decide to break the cycle—for good.
If you can relate to Donna,
the question is:
Are you ready to decide?
Because everything you want is on the other side of letting go.
With belief in your ability to break the cycle,
your wingman on the adventure,
Nima
I want to hear your story.
I’m offering a Blind Spot Call designed to:
- Identify the hidden patterns keeping you stuck in toxic relationship cycles.
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Understand how trauma bonds, shame, and fear are driving your attachment.
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Gain a clear plan to reclaim your power and create healthy, secure relationships.
It’s a focused, 30-minute breakthrough where we uncover your blind spots,
cut through the confusion,
and give you tools to shift out of survival mode.
Normally $497, this session is free for those who qualify.
Here’s how to get started:
Let’s make 2025 the year you stop waiting for things to change—
and start becoming the change yourself.
Your guide in healing,
Nima
