Let me just say it.
If you are single
and your love life feels like one endless loop of unfulfilling dates,
people who don’t “choose” you,
or needy types who cling like Velcro… it’s not bad luck.
It’s you.
I know that hurts to hear,
but if I’m not honest, who will be?
Here’s what I’ve noticed from the hundreds of blind spot
sessions I’ve been on with unhappily single folks:
YOU’RE DATING TO FILL A VOID.
You’re walking into every date
with this invisible neon sign screaming,
“Validate me! Pick me!
Fill the hole in my soul so I can finally feel whole!”
And take a wild guess what happens under that context:
One of three things
- You attract someone equally desperate, neurotic
and emotionally chaotic (what a match made in heaven). - You get pedestalized by someone so needy it suffocates you
(so sexy, right?) - You repel the kind of secure,
emotionally available person you claim you want.
Tell me if this resonates.
Let me be real: This isn’t about blaming you.
It’s about unlearning the BS we’ve all been taught.
Because here’s the thing:
Love doesn’t come from a partner swooping in to save you.
It comes when you genuinely become the person
who no longer needs saving.
When you date from wholeness,
you don’t need someone to choose you.
You BECOME the chooser.
You stop chasing.
You attract.
The pool of people you’re attracting?
It doesn't get bigger—it gets BETTER.
Like learning a new instrument or dance,
you can retrain your nervous system
to stop chasing the familiar drama
and start craving secure, authentic love.
When you heal your attachment wounds,
dating stops feeling like a battleground.
You stop chasing validation from people who can’t give it.
You stop settling for relationships that drain your energy.
And you start attracting partners who reflect your worth—
not your wounds.
Here’s what secure love looks like:
- You feel safe expressing your needs
without fear of being “too much.” - You’re no longer drawn to people
who trigger your anxiety or make you feel small. - You create a connection that’s steady,
mutual, and full of respect.Secure love isn’t some magical fairy tale—
IT’S A SKILL.
It’s not about finding “the one.”
It’s about becoming the kind of person
who can RECOGNIZE and RECEIVE secure love.The saddest part of all for me:
Most people will keep spinning in this cycle their entire lives.
But not the Cyclebreaker..
A true Cyclebreaker can feel the importance of this—
will read this, feel the sting, and know it’s time to take action
and break free.When you heal your attachment wounds
and regulate your nervous system,
you stop confusing drama for love.You stop settling for less than you deserve.
And you expand your capacity for authentic,
secure relationships.This doesn’t just change your dating life.
It transforms your confidence,
your peace, and your entire world.The only question is:
Will you keep waiting for the right person to fix it for you?Or will you do the work to become the person
who creates secure love?With unwavering belief in your capacity and willingness,
your wingman on the adventure,
Nima
P.S. Ready to uncover the blind spots keeping you stuck?
A Blind Spot Call is your chance
to see what’s been driving your choices—
and how to shift them for good.
If you’re tired of feeling stuck in the same exhausting patterns,
you’re invited to inquire about
a deeply transformative conversation
where we get real and uncover:
- The unconscious patterns
that have been quietly sabotaging your relationships
and your sense of self-worth. - The ways your nervous system is keeping you trapped
in cycles of reactivity and disconnection,
even when you tried therapies and desperately want to break free. - A clear and actionable path forward,
designed specifically for you,
to help you reclaim a secure and grounded sense of self.
This isn’t just another surface-level conversation.
This is about uncovering the truth
behind the struggles that have defined your life—
and finally taking the steps to rewrite your story.
I’ll give you honest feedback on the energy you’re putting out,
without blame or shame.
Normally $497, I’m offering it completely free for those who qualify.
Here’s what I need from you:
your key struggles and what you’ve tried to resolve them.
Tell me what’s driving you to seek help now
Tell me about the work you do
Since this is deep work, this lets me see if you have the mental capacity
to follow simple instructions and if I can help.
If you’re ready, Comment or DM with your story,
and finish with “Nima, will you please send me your private calendar link?”
and I’ll personally send you the next steps.
Let’s make 2025 the year you break free from the negative cycle.
