Overthinking is a hell of a drug.
I just spoke to an intelligent guy, who’s actually good looking…
but he’s stuck in the love department.
And yet… here you are.
Still stuck.
Why?
Because you’ve been skipping the most important step.Here’s the hard truth:
Hiring a dating coach to get a partner
when you haven’t worked on your attachment wounds
is like hiring a personal trainer to help you run a marathon
while you’re still recovering from a broken leg.
That’s what happens when you try to
date better without addressing the deep wiring that has you:
- Seeking external validation from women instead of finding self-worth from within.
- Chasing partners who activate your wounds, while pulling away from those who feel safe.
- Overthinking every interaction until you’re stuck in analysis paralysis
- Getting frustrated when “the next coach” doesn’t fix the real problem:
you’re still carrying unresolved attachment trauma.
The worst part:
The more you avoid addressing the real issue,
the more you stay in the same exhausting loop.
You’re not stuck because you’ve been burned before.You’re stuck because you’re trying to fix a
surface problem with surface solutions.
Most people don’t realize this:
The way you show up in relationships has nothing to do with
"dating techniques" and everything to do with
what’s unresolved inside you.
That means every text you send,
every conversation you start,
and every interaction you have is unconsciously shaped by:
- Your fear of abandonment.
- Your need for external validation.
- Your unresolved wounds around self-worth.
Until you heal those deeper patterns,
you’ll keep running into the same problems:
- You attract partners who mirror your insecurities, not your potential.
- You push away healthy connections because they don’t trigger the same familiar chaos.
- You stay in overthinking mode, analyzing every move because you don’t trust yourself.
And hiring another coach or following another dating strategy won’t change that.
The secret is to HEAL THE ROOT FIRST.
Imagine this:
You stop chasing validation from others because you’ve found it within yourself.
You attract the kind of partner who matches your energy, not your wounds.
Dating no longer feels like a battlefield—it feels natural, exciting, and mutual.
You’re no longer overthinking every move or getting stuck in analysis paralysis.
Relationships become a space of growth, connection, and joy—not a rollercoaster of anxiety and fear.
This isn’t about fixing your "technique.”
It’s about becoming the kind of person who naturally attracts secure, fulfilling love.
If you’re tired of the endless loop of trying to fix your dating life without addressing the real issue,
I have an invitation for you:
A free Blind Spot Session (normally $497).
In just 30 minutes, we’ll:
- Uncover the energy you’re unconsciously putting out.
- Identify the patterns keeping you stuck in overthinking and external validation.
- Map out the shifts needed to step into secure, confident, authentic connections.
This isn’t about blame—it’s about clarity.
If you’re ready to finally address the real reason you’re stuck,
reply to this email with your backstory, the kind of work you’ve done so far,
and what you want to accomplish.
Finish with, “Nima, can I get your private calendar link?”
If you’ve been waiting for the right guidance—
the kind that actually transforms your relationships—this is it.
