The following has become a sad reality for many.
See if you can relate.
You’ve found yourself in a relationship that’s become a battlefield of unmet needs,
silent frustrations, and emotional distance.
You love each other deeply—
at least, that’s what you tell yourself as you turn out the light,
roll over, and feel the ever-expanding space between you.
There’s no intimacy.
No connection.
And every attempt to fix it ends in either avoidance
or a volcanic eruption of blame.
You wonder, “Is this it?
Have we reached the point of no return?”
You’re not alone in this “should I stay or go?” loop.
It’s an exhausting place to be.
Maybe you:
• Feel like roommates instead of partners.
• Crave touch and connection,
but the idea of intimacy feels forced and unnatural.
• Spiral into overthinking every interaction:
“Should I try harder?” “Should I bring this up again?”
“Maybe they’re just not into me anymore.”
• Are terrified of breaking things off because…
what if this is the best you’ll ever have?
• Can’t seem to let go of the past hurt
that keeps replaying in every argument.
• Still feel the pangs of guilt
for how you have been showing up.
The pain of being in a sexless,
enmeshed relationship isn’t just about what you’ve lost.
IT’S ABOUT WHAT YOU’RE AFRAID
YOU’LL NEVER HAVE:
True intimacy.
Genuine connection.
Joy in spending time together
That deep magnetic pull of love you see in others
but can’t seem to create in your own life.
But here’s the bitter truth:
Staying stuck in this loop—
waiting for your partner to change, to do the work, to “meet you halfway”—
is like waiting for them to lose weight so you can feel better about YOUR body.
It. Doesn’t. Work.
The reality is, every unresolved issue in your relationship is a mirror.
The conflict, the frustration, the lack of intimacy—
it’s all reflecting what’s happening within you.
They are reflecting the disconnection you are feeling towards YOURSELF.
(and you’re not an idiot— you know this).
Having gone through this exhaustive toxic dance myself,
and having made it through to the other side,
guiding others in healing codependency and attracting secure love,
at the Overview Experience we uncover 3 BLIND SPOTS
keeping you stuck in this cycle:
• Fawning and People-Pleasing:
You prioritize their happiness at the cost of your own truth,
leaving you resentful and disconnected. (Mainly towards yourself).
• Unresolved Shame:
You feel like you’re “not enough” or “too much,”
and this story keeps you from showing up authentically.
You blame THEM for not treating you with kindness and love—
but you’re not exactly treating yourself that way either.
(Mic Drop)
• Attachment to External Outcomes:
Your worth is tied to whether THEY change,
leaving you powerless when they don’t.
These blind spots aren’t just sabotaging your relationship—
they’re sabotaging your ability to feel worthy, magnetic, and alive.
You don’t even realize this becomes a no-win situation
of codependency.
Because here’s the thing:
When you don’t feel worthy,
you energetically PUSH AWAY
the very connection and abundance you crave.
You:
• Overfunction, overgive, and then resent your partner for not reciprocating.
• Seek reassurance EXTERNALLY instead of creating emotional safety within yourself.
• Wait for them to “step up and change,”
only to realize you’re more stuck and powerless than before.
But what if, instead of waiting for them to change,
you became the one who shifted?
What if, instead of asking,
“Should I stay or go?” you asked,
“Who do I need to become to create the intimacy and connection I desire?”
The truth is, the relationship may be salvageable—
but the most important question is,
are you willing to stop abandoning yourself for love?
Because real transformation begins
when you release the attachment to the relationship working out.
It means deciding, with full confidence,
that you’ll no longer tolerate toxicity—
not because you’re waiting for them to change,
but because your self-worth won’t allow you to stay
where you’re not thriving.
It’s about becoming the person who flows their energy away
from what no longer serves them,
and toward a life where love, connection, and abundance meet you at your level.
When you let go of trying to fix the relationship
and start healing your own blind spots, something magical happens:
• You stop fawning and start showing up authentically,
which creates real trust and respect.
• You release shame, which allows you to feel seen and loved for who you truly are.
• You become magnetic—not because your partner changed,
but because YOU healed your insecurity.
And from this place of deep self-trust and alignment,
you can finally answer the “stay or go” question with clarity and confidence—
without fear, guilt, or regret.
This is what it means to become trigger-proof:
Not immune to conflict,
but immune to the patterns that keep you stuck and disconnected.
What if you could shift your view so that the conflict,
the disconnection, and the lack of intimacy
were simply the result of blind spots—
patterns you’ve been repeating unconsciously?
What if the relationship you desire is still within reach—
not by fixing THEM, but by releasing the blame game,
healing your triggers,
and becoming magnetic to the love and connection you crave?
This is your call to action. To lean in, raise your hand,
and take responsibility for creating the life and relationship you truly want.
Because the truth is, when you stop abandoning yourself,
everything—your confidence, your connection, your intimacy—begins to heal.
Tell me what’s more important than that.
And you deserve it.
Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima
