If you’re paying attention,
relationship breakdowns will follow a specific pattern.
The same conflict.
The same arguments.
The same heartbreak.
Whether it’s your marriage, your dating life,
or even the way you show up for your friends,
these breakdowns carry a familiar sting:
- Feeling like you give too much and get nothing in return.
- Wondering if you’re "too much" or "not enough."
- Overthinking every interaction
until your mind feels like it’s on a hamster wheel, never stopping.
I was there so I can empathize.
And what sucks is that fear keeps you in the same painful cycles.
You keep waiting.
But no matter what you do,
it feels like your relationships aren’t on a firm, stable ground
Why?
Because these relationship challenges
or even the people in your life right now.
They started long before that.
They began in the modeling you absorbed as a child.
- Did your parents avoid conflict at all costs,
pretending everything was “fine” until it wasn’t?
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Did they lash out,leaving you feeling like love was tied to being perfect—
or invisible?
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Or maybe they handled everything behind closed doors,
leaving you clueless about what healthy conflict resolution even looks like.
- Conflict feels like a threat to your very existence.
- You suppress your feelings and stay silent, hoping to avoid a blow-up.
Or, when things feel too much, you push people away,
convinced it’s safer to keep your guard up.
And the result of all of this avoidance:
An inner conflict that eats at you every day.
Because when you suppress your truth,
you abandon yourself.
And that self-abandonment comes with a heavy cost:
- Relationships where you’re walking on eggshells,
hoping they’ll choose you, but resenting them at the same time. - A deep, gnawing loneliness
even when you’re in the same bed with someone. - Feeling stuck in insecure relationships that drain your energy
but feel impossible to leave. - Health issues—like anxiety, burnout, and even physical symptoms—
because your nervous system has been in survival mode for decades.
You know something is off, but you don’t know how to fix it.
- Therapy didn’t get to the root.
- Self-help books just gave you more “to-dos” that you couldn’t stick to.
- And quick-fix programs only left you more frustrated and ashamed.
That you’re “too sensitive” or “too demanding.”
But that’s a lie.
The truth is— these cycles aren’t your fault.
They’re a byproduct of what you were taught—or not taught—
about codependency, conflict resolution, and secure attachment.
So, how do you break the cycle?
By realizing that healing isn’t about fixing the surface issues
in your relationships.
- Acknowledging the ways your early environment shaped your patterns.
- Rebuilding your relationship with yourself so you can show up authentically.
- Learning how to handle conflict in a way that deepens connection
instead of destroying it.
When you take the time to heal this, everything changes:
- You stop chasing people who can’t meet your needs.
- You stop walking on eggshells, terrified of rocking the boat.
- You create relationships that feel safe, secure, and authentic.
And here’s the truth (and you know it):
It’s not about finding the perfect partner.
It’s about becoming the version of you
who doesn’t need to chase, fix, or beg for love.
The one who knows that healthy love isn’t a battlefield—it’s a sanctuary.
The one who doesn’t crumble in the face of conflict but stands rooted in their truth.
The one who doesn’t just survive relationships but thrives in connection.
This isn’t a dream—it’s a decision.
And the process begins with one bold move:
Choosing to stop running from yourself.
So let me ask you—are you ready to break the cycle
of chaos, codependency, and self-abandonment once and for all?
If your answer is yes, then congratulations—
you’re stepping into the identity of a Cyclebreaker.
Your wingman on the adventure,
Nima
codependency, and self-abandonment.
Here’s what we’ll uncover together:
- The hidden dynamics driving your relationships off course—
and why you keep ending up in the same frustrating loops.
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Why conflict resolution feels impossibleand how unresolved patterns from your past are silently running the show.
secure love, starting with the relationship you have with yourself.
Warning: THIS ISN’T TALK THERAPY. It’s not you venting,
and me merely validating.
It’s a 30-minute, no-fluff deep dive into the blind spots you can’t see
but have been controlling your life—
and a clear roadmap to finally reclaim your power.
Because breaking the cycle means being ready to follow through.
Here’s how to apply:
- Comment or DM with your story:
What’s the biggest challenge you’re facing in your relationships? Be real and raw. - Tell me what you’ve already tried, what has helped-- and where you want to be.
- End your reply with: “Nima, can I have your private calendar link?”
This is your chance to uncover what’s been holding you back—
and more importantly, how to move forward.
2025 can be the year you stop repeating the past
and start creating the relationships you deserve.
Nima
