When The Honeymoon Phase Ends

and every conversation flows.

It’s called the "honeymoon phase."

But if you’re like most people,

you didn’t even notice when it slipped away.

Suddenly, it’s replaced with:

• • Increased external demands:
  Balancing careers, family obligations,
  or new responsibilities (like children)
  that pull your attention away from each other.
•  Accumulated stress:
  Financial pressures or personal challenges
  that quietly create distance.
• Emerging boredom: Once-exciting routines now feel predictable,
  leaving you wondering, “What happened to us?”

This is where the negative cycle, or "loop of doom" begins.

The fights you swore you’d never have--

Now replaced with tension, distance, or resentment.

It’s not that you’ve fallen out of love—

It’s perfectly normal.

But without the right tools, awareness and practice,

or fall apart (and causes divorce lawyers to get rich).

It starts subtly, like a crack in your connection:

• A disagreement that spirals into blame and frustration.
• Silent treatments that feel endless.
•  Misunderstandings that fester slowly into resentment.

Your brain goes into overdrive:

• Replaying conversations, looking for where it went wrong.
• Strategizing solutions to fix things.
• Overanalyzing your partner’s words, tone, or silence.

This is the loop of doom—

seems to push you further apart.

For high achievers, it’s maddening.
The very skills that make you successful—

become toxic in your relationship.

Here’s the intriguing part I discovered:
Breaking free from the loop isn’t about fixing your partner

or finding the perfect words to say.

It’s about healing your OWN patterns.

Why?

you’re both bringing to the table.

And here’s the thing:

It impacts everything.

Your health, your energy,

your friends, and most of all—yourself.

THE GOOD NEWS:
But it doesn’t have to stay this way.

There’s a phase beyond the power struggle.

It’s called "Mature Love,”

and it’s where the true magic happens.

It’s where:

• Conflicts deepen your understanding of each other
  instead of driving you apart.
• Boundaries become a source of safety
  rather than resentment.
•  Vulnerability creates intimacy rather than fear.

This is where love evolves from a fantasy

rooted in authenticity, trust, and growth.

It took me 43 years to find this phase.

or with love itself.

What I learned is this:

learning how to get to phase 3

doesn’t just change your relationship.

It transforms you.

When you heal your attachment wounds,

your entire life shifts.

• Your health improves as your stress decreases.
•  Your confidence grows as you reclaim your boundaries.
•  Your energy returns as you stop suppressing your truth.
•  You no longer need to be so pushy or controlling—
  and you become magnetic

And the biggest gift?

You pave the way for the next generation

What are you modelling to your kids?

This is why I do what I do—

and most relationships do.

So he learns that love isn’t about perfection—

and choosing each other every single day.

This is my purpose:

isn’t just painful—it’s OPTIONAL.

You just need to have the willingness