Where Our Dysfunctional Relationship With Emotions Begins

do you find yourself saying, “You’re fine, don’t cry”?

When they act out, 

do you catch yourself losing patience—or even control?

When they’re scared or angry, 

do you struggle to just sit with them without trying to fix it?

These are the moments that define their inner world.

Without knowing it, 

Look in the past few months at the space within your home.
Is your home a space of safety, or is it more like a battlefield?

It’s not intentional. 

No parent wants this.

But when we are reactive from our own unhealed wounds, 

disconnection, and unpredictable emotions.

And kids-- They absorb it. 

Every bit of it.

What happens when kids grow up in homes without emotional safety?

They learn to doubt themselves, 

• Anxiety: 
  They start FEARING their emotions because no one taught them how to handle fear.
• Self-doubt: They question their worth because they never felt truly seen or valued.
• Emotional suppression: They hide their feelings because they see us doing the same—
• or worse, because we told them to.

• “I’m too much.”
• “If I cry, I’m weak.”
• “My feelings are a burden.”
• “To be loved, I have to be perfect.”

chances are you’re unknowingly passing it down to the next generation.

Generations of us were raised on dismissive parenting practices.

“Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.”
“You’re fine. Don’t be so dramatic.”
“That’s nothing to be scared of.”

we’re unconsciously teaching our kids the same thing.

We model it in the way we suppress our sadness or numb our anger.
We react to their big emotions 

because we’ve never learned how to handle our own.

We perpetuate the belief that emotions make us weak.

And it’s no wonder:
We didn’t learn how to become Trigger-Proof.

Now, add this to the mix:
Kids today are being raised on screens 

that hijack their nervous systems with endless dopamine.

TikTok. Instagram. YouTube.
They’re overstimulated, emotionally dysregulated, 

and starving for connection.

If we, as parents, aren’t regulated ourselves, 

anxiety, and disconnection.

It’s not hereditary—it’s conditioning.

The Opportunity:

The greatest gift you can give your child is a self-loving parent.

(Read that again).

When you heal your own attachment wounds, you break the cycle.
When you learn how to regulate your nervous system, 

you create safety in your home.

This isn’t about being a perfect parent.
It’s about becoming the parent your child needs—

a regulated, compassionate, and present one.

Imagine raising kids who:

• Trust their emotions instead of fearing them.
• Know their worth without questioning it.
• Feel safe to express themselves without shame.
• Grow up with a secure identity, unburdened by trauma.

When you step into this work, everything changes.

•  You stop reacting and start responding.
• You create relationships that thrive on connection instead of chaos.
• You model self-worth, resilience, and emotional intelligence.

Because you deserve to live in a home that feels like a sanctuary, 

not a battlefield.

And you have the power to make it happen.

Your wingman on the adventure.