Blog Articles by Dr. Nima

Have you ever wanted to “piss off” from a relationship that feels so overwhelming? If you identify with being “avoidant” you’ll know what I’m talking about.   This was Kim— who’s partner Shane reached out to me earlier today frustrated after an argument that had her...

  If you can identify with being Avoidant attached-- you have a deep desire for connection-- but are deathly afraid of it.   Historically connection meant that you'd have to take responsibility for other people's emotions. There's a paralyzing fear of losing oneself,...

https://youtu.be/sW5Z-x_IPWc  P.S When you're ready, here's what we got:REWIRE: Trauma, Sex and MoneyBreathwork & BadasseryAttachment Style QuizFree Workshop: Should I Stay or Should I Go?The Overview ExperienceAre you ready to work together? I'd love to see...

This was a question that was asked by a community member in our trigger proof community... On this transmission I delve into why this question itself is dangerous and doesn't lead to favorable outcomes-- and where to aim instead. Not getting this concept right in my...

You find a partner. You fall in love. You have good enough s€x to want to keep them around. (not necessarily in that order?) And then it happens.An affair. Or some version of infidelity. I realize that reading this might feel uncomfortable for you.But if we truly...

(4 minute read) QUESTION IN MY DM’S: I'm a 38 year old woman, and I got divorced last year after being separated for several years.My ex-husband was my first s€xual partner.The s€x was better prior to getting married,but after our first year of marriage it was...

I thought for sure I would be called out or cancelled for this. BUT THE EXACT OPPOSITE HAPPENED. In this Era where #metoo highlighted the classic traits of “Toxic Masculinity”: Namely:  Controlling, Agressive, Predatory behavior that comes from theunhealed wounds and...

If you identify with Anxious Attachment, then you're not alone. Constantly second guessing yourself, seeking validation, asking friends "what does he/she mean by that?" in this twisted dance of anxiety whether they like you or not or are going to leave.   It sucks.  ...

If you're curious about what constitutes your "Sexual shadows", see if any of these questions resonate with you:   Will I ever feel safe to commit to ONE person? How much focus should there be on sex in a relationship? Am I too much? I can't keep up with my partners...