The Only 2 Things A Great Relationship Requires

I had the pleasure of working with a successful millionaire entrepreneur this year
who has been able to turn her toxic relationship around,
and I can say with conviction that this is what I mean
when I say healthy relationships ONLY require 2 things:

Self-Awareness + Nervous System Regulation when Triggered

If we master these 2 foundational elements,
we can finally break free from the relationship patterns
that have kept us stuck in frustration and disconnection for decades.

SELF-AWARENESS requires that you know exactly what your attachment wounds are
and how they show up in real time—
and I don't mean just on a cognitive level.

You need to understand the very specific triggers,
body sensations, and automatic responses that hijack you in moments of conflict.

Once you've mapped that out
(which I can show you how to do btw),
there is a very specific process for catching these patterns before they take over.

This is exactly what I teach inside my Trigger-Proof methodology.

Your body is a GOLD MINE of clues.
You just need to know what you're looking for, and where to find it.

I've been teaching people this since 2019,
after I accidentally discovered these patterns
in my own toxic relationship at the time,
and I've since shown hundreds of keen folks how to do it too.

You'll find obvious patterns once I teach you how to do this,
so navigating conflict will become way less terrifying—
but only once you know what you're actually looking for.

NERVOUS SYSTEM REGULATION
(especially when you get triggered) is all about how you show up
in the moments that matter most.

How you respond when activated,
what you do with big emotions,
your capacity to stay present during conflict,
your ability to repair after disconnection,
and the overall safety you create for yourself and your partner.

If you nail the self-awareness piece first,
and then learn to regulate your nervous system in real time,
you'll unlock the secure attachment you've been chasing.

Like this one client I worked with recently.
Six months in:

• Ended a 15-year cycle of on-again, off-again chaos

• Finally trusts himself to choose a healthy partner

• No longer checks his phone 47 times a day analyzing texts in “waiting” energy

If you know your triggers like you know your business strategy,
and you know where to look in your body for all of the above...

It becomes incredibly predictable and simple to win.

So before you have your next difficult conversation,
ask yourself:

1. Do I actually know what just triggered me, or am I just reacting?

2. Can I feel the sensations in my body right now, or am I completely in my head?

3. Am I trying to control my partner's response, or am I focused on my own nervous system?

4. Have I done the deep work on my attachment wounds, or am I just managing symptoms?

(PS - I've built out a specific framework for this)

Am I willing to look at my side of the pattern, even when it's uncomfortable?

If the answer is no to any one of these, you'll keep struggling in the same ways.

Bring it back to the basics.

Self awareness and Nervous System regulation when you’re triggered.

If you haven’t mastered this, you’re not alone,

but the good news is,
that safe secure relationships with elegant boundaries where you’re not in needy waiting energy, where you’re the chooser rather than waiting to be chosen and stuck in the anxious avoidant loop….. Is all possible if you’re willing.

Your wingman on the adventure,

Nima