Everyone talks about finding the right person,
But what if the real story isn't about who we're choosing—
it's about why we keep choosing them?
See if this resonates:
You start out feeling alive,
magnetic, and in sync—
only for things to spiral into power struggles,
resentment, and disconnection.
I’ve been there.
I know what it’s like to chase connection
while unknowingly pushing it away.
To give so much of yourself,
only to feel unappreciated and empty in return.
My battle cry in previous relationships was:
“When will it be enough for you?”
But here’s what no one tells you:
What you’re experiencing isn’t love breaking down—
it’s unresolved trauma playing out.
Most people don’t realize
they’ve been conditioned to confuse love
with survival patterns.
It’s why we mistake anxious attachment for passion.
And why we see avoidance as strength.
The truth is:
Love doesn’t create chaos.
Unresolved Trauma does.
Let me break it down for you:
Most relationships are driven by subconscious patterns
we inherited long before we could even spell “love.”
- If you were raised in an environment
where your emotions weren’t validated,
you might now fawn—
overgive, over-apologize,
and over-accommodate, just to keep the peace. - If your parents projected their own unresolved pain onto you,
you might now shut down, run,
or lash out when things get tough—
mistaking suppression for strength. - If love in your household felt conditional,
you might now believe you have to earn connection
through perfection, people-pleasing, or self-sacrifice.
Sound familiar?
If so, this isn’t your fault.
But, if you don’t address it,
these patterns will keep running your relationships
like a bad algorithm.
Here’s the good news:
You can break the cycle.
The reason I’m sharing this
is because I’ve spent years unraveling
these same patterns in myself.
I discovered that most of what I thought was love
was actually unresolved wounds from my childhood
being projected onto my partner.
And let me tell you—
doing this work isn’t easy.
It requires courage.
The courage to look inward.
The courage to look beyond our own story.
The courage to hold space for your messy,
unresolved parts instead of judging them.
But it’s so, so worth it. Here’s why:
- You stop reacting and start responding.
- You stop chasing connection and start creating it.
- You stop fawning or freezing
and start showing up as your authentic self.
Because here’s the truth:
The love you’re seeking begins with you.
A thought to leave you with:
Most people think their relationships fall apart
because they’re with the wrong person.
But what if the truth is that they’ve never learned
how to love themselves first?
When you heal the relationship
with these darker parts of yourself,
you heal the relationships around you.
Your children feel it.
Your partner feels it.
And most importantly, you feel it.
Standing for your capacity to look inward,
With clarity, courage, and connection,
your wingman on the adventure,
Nima
P.S.
If this post hits home, it’s because you’re closer to a breakthrough than you realize.
The only thing standing in your way is clarity.
A Blind Spot Call is the chance for the right type of person
to uncover the hidden patterns keeping you stuck in toxic relationship cycles.
If you’re able to follow instructions below, and approved, In 30 minutes, we’ll:
- Identify the unconscious wounds shaping your relationships.
- Identify how they’re sabotaging your relationships.
- Map out actionable steps to break free and create the life you deserve.
This isn’t therapy. It’s immediate clarity.
Normally $497, this session is free for those who qualify.
Here’s how to see if we are a fit:
- Comment or DM with your story—what’s been holding you back?
- Let me know what you’ve tried and what you want to achieve in the next year.
- End with: “Nima, can I have your private calendar link?”
Don’t wait for someone else to give you permission to heal. Take it.
