A community member just asked:
"Would appreciate some extra insight on how to know when you're playing the victim vs. just needing to express your feelings on how you've been affected by someone else's actions vs. needing/desiring validation vs. not making others feel responsible for your feelings. Confused on how the concepts are different/similar & what's healthy vs. not healthy. I definitely don't want to play victim or make others responsible, but how does one express themselves without those possibly happening?Is needing validation codependency? If so, is it always codependency or only in certain circumstances? How does one share their feeling without making the other person feel responsible?"
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this has opened my eyes. Ive been playing the victim for years. I was in two abusive relationships and couldn’t get past the first one because it was so toxic and abusive.
Sadly most people are stuck there. Make sure you watch this episode
https://youtu.be/4gVnoZPdOUY
I really don’t like the word unapologetic. I would answer all of those excellent questions you read out, with the word surrender. In all situations she described there is the need to express oneself without the other receiving it as a trigger… usually, the sensitive person is full grown on this empathy and insight level, she has great values this way and wants to tread carefully. She may be dealing with others who are fully grown in a different area but needing more growth in the empathy area and therefore would receive virtually any attempt this woman tries as a… Read more »
I agreee with you— and the only reason why we wouldn’t like the word unapologetic is our conditioning that has us feeling we need to apologize for everything.
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