How To Deal With An Avoidant Partner

Written By Dr. Nima

On February 25, 2023
Have you ever wanted to “piss off” from a relationship that feels so overwhelming?
If you identify with being “avoidant” you’ll know what I’m talking about.
This was Kim— who’s partner Shane reached out to me earlier today
frustrated after an argument that had her wanting to RUN— ending the relationship.
If you identify with being “anxious attached”— then you probably
have dated/partnered with someone like Kim.
Her biggest fear was not being able to handle being with ANYONE….
Feeling like no matter who she’s with— there’s one foot in— one foot out of the relationship.
Shane and Kim have been participants in my free community “Healing Love, Sex, and Money”
and have been watching the 3 free Masterclasses that were recorded (and will be up to purchase on my website soon),
and he reached out realizing that the content I taught on healing Trauma Bonds, Sex, and money shadows
all made perfect sense to explain why they were stuck in the same argument, spinning their wheels,
truly loving one another— but frustrated as to why they can’t make it work.
He wondered if my upcoming event “Rewire” could help them.
They leaned into their fears and committed to learning more.
So to help them prepare, I hopped on a call and gave them both some tough love (after getting consent).
I recorded our 17 minute conversation in hopes that you would be able to find yourself in their story.
I got their consent to share this with the people in my community— so here you are.
Watch this short clip and see if you can resonate with where they are and see if you can
observe any blind spots as to why the love is there— but they’re just NOT connected on the same page.
Then, after you watch, comment below and tell me what you discover and see a similar pattern with yourself.
If you’re not already in the group- the 3 Masterclasses will be up another few days and then taken down
and will be available for you to watch for a fee (I haven’t decided yet).
If you’re in the group and haven’t watched them— go in— they’re in the pinned post at the top.
After you watch the classes and this share from Shane and Kim— pay close attention to the guidance I give them,
see if it will be helpful for you, and then message me if you have any questions about what to do next
to break this cycle that didn’t start with you.
I’m listening.
See you on the other side,

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1 year ago

Is it possible to display both traits, avoidant and anxious attachment?

Nima Rahmany
10 months ago
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1 year ago

So relatable. My husband I believe is a narcissist. Insults me and calls me names and then come back to me like nothing happened. And he believes if he come kisses on me or makes me breakfast, then everything should be squash. 12 yrs and I so ready to leave this relationship. I have lost all emotional attachment towards him. But we have talked about divorce but he won’t allow it.

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